<p> It’s always easier to wait. <br>For the other person<br> to say <br>I love you. <br><br>For the other person <br>to <br>apologize.<br><br>For the other person to admit <br>how <br>they’ve been wrong <br>and stupid <br>and childish <br><br>But don’t do the easy thing <br>go first <br><br>Say I love you. <br>Even if you’re not sure <br>they’ll say it back<br><br>Apologize <br>even if you might <br>be the more wronged party <br><br>Admit <br>that you messed up <br>screwed up <br>and acted a fool <br><br>It takes a spoonful of humility <br>and a bucket full of grace <br><br>But when you do <br>go first <br>and say<br><br>the thing that takes courage <br>you can lead others <br>from fear and doubt<br><br>into love and grace <br><br>and it all starts <br>with going <br>first</p>
Hi I’m Toku,
What you do matters, more than you realize.
What you do doesn’t just impact you or your future legacy, it ripples across all of your closest relationships, shifts the success of your business, and changes how people you don’t even know relate to the world.
And yet we pay far too little attention to our actions and the place they arise from.
Living as a Zen monk for over two years taught me to carefully watch the mind, to see the seeds of thinking, and how those seeds slowly blossom into the fruits of speaking and doing.
Life is a tremendous gift that vanishes in an instant.
I write poetry, essays on leadership, and guides that help people use that gift and most importantly experience it.
If that feels like you, stick around. I’d love to spend some life with you.
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Every time we talk he really listens, understands my problems, and helps me find solutions that work.
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