You know you should tell the truth.
You know the truth will set you free. You feel the power of the truth, but this power scares you.
When it comes time to talk, you don’t speak the truth. You say something else. Something you think they want to hear. You avoid hurting others’ feelings by lying. You lie. And then you rationalize why that’s the best course of action.
You spend a great deal of time waiting for other people to show up. Waiting for other people to tell the truth. Waiting for other people to be honest.
You think, “I’ll say ‘I love you’ when she does.” You think, “I’ll be honest with him when he reveals his agenda.” You think, “I’ll show him I trust him when he demonstrates his trust in me.”
But this never works. When we wait for the world to show up, the world sits and waits.
Trust doesn’t work like this. Life doesn’t work like this. If you want to get what you want, to create what you want, and to have relationships that are full of meaning. You have to be willing to reveal the truth with friendly candor.
The only thing that will stop you is the fear of “what if”.
What if she doesn’t love me? What if his agenda is evil? What if he isn’t worthy of my trust?
But action never changes a “what if.” If she doesn’t love you, she doesn’t love you. If he has an agenda, he has an agenda. If he isn’t worthy of trust, that isn’t going to change.
So why wait? Why would you see the monster at your bedroom door and pull your sheets over your head? Sheets won’t protect you.
Monsters are scary, but pretending is worse.
Be honest, show up, tell the truth, speak with candor, boldly reveal yourself.
You may not get you what you want, but you’ll increase the momentum to get it. And the sooner you know that sooner you can face it and become the person you need to be to move past it.