How To Face The Discomfort of Change

Yesterday was really tough. I felt light headed, a little drunk, and mentally not all there. No I don’t have the flu and I haven’t taken any sort of drugs. I feel this way because I’m trying a new short term diet to loosen my dependency on sugar. I knew it would be hard, but I didn’t expect it to be this hard.

But despite the difficulty I’m still in good spirits for one reason: I know it won’t last.

No matter how off I feel, no matter how hungry I feel, and no matter how much I would love to shove a handful of M&M’s down my throat, I endure. Not because I’m super human, have amazing will power, or that I’m better than you are. I endure because I remind myself that it will not last.

Facing Change In Hard

If you are anything like me, there have been times you’ve felt afraid that if you make a change, you will feel uncomfortable. Moreover, as you considered taking action the spectre of this discomfort haunted you like a ghost.

You imagined changing would make you feel awkward and off. You imagined this feeling lasting for a long time, maybe even the rest of your life. And so you stayed where you were.

But the truth I have found again and again is that discomfort doesn’t last forever. And even when it does endure, it’s never as long or as bad as you fear.

You see while impermanence can be a bummer when it comes to summer, young love, or a tasty chocolate bar. The nature of impermanence can also give you courage. Knowing that discomfort is temporary can help you face the things in your life you’ve been avoiding.

What if I told you I could give you a pill that would make you happy for the rest of your life, but it would give you stomach cramps and diarrhea for a two weeks. Wouldn’t you take it? Wouldn’t you trade a few uncomfortable days to be happy for a long long time?

And yet, so many of us choose to stay where we are because we are afraid of the discomfort that change will bring. So I’m challenging you and myself to stop this. To stop seeking the easy path, just because it’s a little less demanding. Instead, I challenge you to stop accepting your comfortable pain and embrace your uncomfortable path. I know that if you do, you will be so much happier that you won’t even remember why you were so worried in the first place.

A happier you is waiting, all you have to do is be willing to create the space for it, to listen to your heart, and to trust yourself.


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5 Reasons You Should Do Something To Change Your Life

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1.No One Can Start Your Life Change For You
We all have dreams that we will meet the perfect partner, a famous millionaire, a wise teacher, or fairy godmother that will make our dreams come true.

Some of these amazing things can happen, but the universe is waiting for you to take the first step. Or maybe even the 1000 steps. People can support your journey, but those people are on the path waiting for you.

2.A Small Variation Can Lead To Great Change-
Imagine you are on a spaceship headed to a far off galaxy. Early on in your voyage, you realize you’ve made a small navigation error. The error was a change in course of only a few inches, but over the course of your journey would have led you far, far off course.

Small changes have big effects over time. At first, when do something to change your life, even something small, you may not notice much of a difference. But over the long term the consequences are amazing. If you’ve started to drift off course, it’s much easier to make a small change now than wait and have to make huge changes later.

3. Taking a Risk On Yourself Creates Self Trust –
I read a study that found that people who lie about their GPA’s on a survey will actually improve their grades. The idea is simple if we claim we are doing something we make a subconscious decision to go for it.

When we take a risk and say we are going to do something we begin to move toward that reality. Success isn’t guaranteed, but it becomes much more likely if we set intentions with confidence.

4. Life Is Short
People always over predict how much time and money they will have in the future. We often plan with the idea that everything will work out perfectly. We think “If I shower in 10 mins and get dressed in 5 then I can make it there just on time.” But then we can’t find our keys, we get caught up in the glory of hot water, or there is traffic and we are late.

Life is the same way. Not everything on our journey is going to be straight and narrow. There may be dragons we need to contend with, the sooner we get started the less those dragons will slow us down.

5. Everything is More Scary From the Outside
When we imagine all the things that might happen if we change our lives our minds can become full of visions of failure and catastrophe. Sure all change implies risk, but so does not changing.

If you have ever stood on the edge of a forest at night you know that it can look daunting. But if you are in that same forest camping it’s not scary at all. The trees are soft and gentle. The environment holds you with its energy of life.

When we look at change from the outside it can be terrifying. But when you actually do something to change your life it’s not as scary as you imagined.

So Get Started
I’ve always been afraid of living an accordion life. Where the events of today could be duplicated until almost exactly until my death. I don’t want to wake up years from now and wonder where my life went.

So I try my best everyday to make myself and those around me better. I don’t always succeed and I won’t be an epic figure in the annals of history. But I know that I would prefer to live a life that embraces change and strives for excellence. I hope you will join me on my journey and I hope you will let me know if I can help on your.