There is one choice that can change everything about you.
It’s not choosing positive thinking, or a new workout regime. It’s not choosing which job to take or whom to date. These are all important choices but this choice is bigger.
It can change all of those things and more. It’s a revolutionary choice. It’s a dynamic choice; a choice that sets you apart from the crowd; a choice that stands at the center of your life.
The problem is it’s not an easy choice. It takes sacrifice, but it’s worth it. It’s worth almost anything you give up, because this choice is the first step to lasting transformation.
This amazing, rare, and hard choice is the choice to take responsibility for your life. You may think you’ve already done this. But lets look at what this choice is and what it isn’t.
Taking Responsibility Is Not About:
Taking responsibility means empowering yourself. Whereas blaming yourself, means becoming a victim.
Responsibility isn’t about being perfect. It’s about accepting our imperfection and taking a step towards a whole way of being.
When you blame yourself, you become your faults. When you take responsibility, you become your potential for change.
Much of what happens is out of our control. It’s hard to accept but it’s true. And taking responsibility isn’t about trying to change that.
When we take responsibility, we just shift focus. We let got of the uncontrollable. And instead work to guide our own hearts and minds.
When we focus on our own growth, we find that the uncontrollable doesn’t change. But our relationship to it does.
Taking Responsibility for Others
No matter how hard we try, we can’t change anyone else. Taking responsibility isn’t about changing other people.
It’s about owning our own path. When we live our lives in integrity and faith, we give others the chance to do the same.
Taking Responsibility for the World
The world can be a crazy place. It’s worthwhile to have compassion, but we have to realize we aren’t responsible for the world’s problem.
We are only responsible for our inner peace or inner chaos. Wanting to change the world is wonderful. But before we can change the world, we must change ourselves.
Taking Responsibility Is About:
Owning Your Words
The first step to taking responsibility is owning what you say. Too often, we use language that blames others and disempowers ourselves.
Instead of saying, “I have to,” say “I choose to.” Everything we do is a choice. We may not like the other options and some choices are hard, but denying responsibility won’t help.
Instead of saying, “They made me,” say, “When they did x I chose to do y.” Reactivity happens, but if we want to be skillful, we have to own our reactions.
When we own what we say we start to see where we can make a change.
Owning Your Actions
Once you start owning what you say, you’ll find you almost have to own what you do. Our lives are made of everything we choose to do and not do.
By taking responsibility for our actions, we gain integrity. We also begin to gain insight into why we act the way we do. In this way, taking responsibility for our actions becomes the foundation for changing our lives.
Owning Your Thoughts
It all starts with your thoughts. If you don’t think it, you don’t do it. You can’t always choose what thoughts arise, but you can choose which ones to indulge.
Ask yourself, “Is this a helpful thought?” If it is, go for it. If it’s not, don’t put any more energy into it.
At first, this will seem impossible, but with practice, you can learn to let go of unhealthy thoughts and generate supportive ones.
Creating a Foundation for Respect
Once you start owning your words, actions, and thoughts something changes. You begin to respect yourself in a new way.
When you respect yourself, others will respect you as well. The best part is this respect isn’t based on power. It’s based on having a good heart and integrity.
This kind of respect can’t be manufactured. It has to be grown organically from a strong center of responsibility.
Making Transformation Possible
When we take responsibility, we begin to see who we are. Once we know this, we can choose who we want to be.
By taking responsibility of who we are, our light is able to shine through. Excuses, blaming, and complaining only hide that true light.
Don’t indulge them. Choose to shine.