Good News! Your Dreams Are Made Of Crap

Your dreams are not made of clouds.

Your dreams are not made of pixie dust.

Your dreams are made of CRAP!

Dirty, smelly, inconvenient, annoying, scary, crap.

Often we see all the miles and miles between us and our dreams as a problem. You think, “Aw man if I could just get past this crap, then I’d be happy.” And you sit and dream about magically floating over all the crap you don’t want to deal with.

But this doesn’t work. Because you need the crap for your dreams to be real.

Your dreams are not what happen when you are at the other side. Your dreams are what happen when you stop dreaming about them and start digging through all the crap you need to make them happen.

Your great relationship isn’t in the perfect partner, it’s in digging into the crap of talking about your life, deciding where to go to dinner, and giving your partner reassurance that yes indeed they are hot.

Your great small business isn’t in finding the perfect customers. It’s in digging through all the crap of bad web design, poorly thought branding, and missteps in the marketplace until you begin to fully understand what drives you to build a business and how you can truly serve the world you live in.

Your great new career isn’t about finding a job that magically fulfills you. It’s in leaving your comfortable place at a big company, being scared to death, floundering, and searching until you find the work that speaks to your heart like nothing else.

Intentions are not the answer, wishing isn’t the answer, manifesting isn’t the answer, the answer is crap.

Because what happens when you dig into the crap of your life, is that you find all the parts of yourself you haven’t faced and all the corners of your heart you have locked away. When you dig into the crap it sucks but you grow.

You grow to become a wiser, more compassionate, and more totally kick ass version of who you truly are. The crap cleans you and when you get to the end, even your dreams are different. Now’s the time. Find the crap and dig in. It’s not pretty, but it’s never going to get any prettier than it is right now either.

What are you waiting for? (I’ll see you in there)

 


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3 thoughts on “Good News! Your Dreams Are Made Of Crap

  1. I always enjoy reading what you share, Toku. I appreciate the direct nature of this one. Working through our stuff is part of realizing our dreams for sure. Looking at it this way, instead that the “crap” is inherently bad can help us move forward with more clarity. Thank you.

  2. Magic post Toku. I quite agree. Apart from the bit about ‘who you really are’. Do you think there is an authentic self underneath the crap? Or just the version of reality that we are creating at will? I know we’re full of schemas, beliefs and unconscious ways of being that give others a version of our personality (that we’re sometimes not even aware of). But if we can enter that hard drive and tinker with it, if it’s all changeable and all personality is just attachment anyway (and therefore nobody’s personality is ‘the real them’), are you facing parts of yourself or imagining them anew? I feel like I’m outside of myself, keen to alter the program (especially my recent self-deprecation and lack of confidence), but I haven’t got the tools. And it feels…crap!

    1. Great questions lucille
      I’ll take them one at a time

      Do you think there is an authentic self underneath the crap? Or just the version of reality that we are creating at will?
      I do believe and have experienced that there is something down underneath the crap. For years I was trapped hanging out in the crap thinking that this was all their was. It was only when I began to really dig into it and understand why it was there and what was underneath that I was able to discover the direction that my heart was calling me to walk. I did this by using mediation, learning to listen to my heart, and working on myself. I have faith that if you are willing to face yourself, ask for help, and be brave you can see through the crap and hear what your heart wants you to hear.

      If we can enter that hard drive and tinker with it, if it’s all changeable and all personality is just attachment anyway (and therefore nobody’s personality is ‘the real them’), are you facing parts of yourself or imagining them anew?
      That’s a great question. If there is no real me then how can karma attach itself to anything? Well in my experience and understanding (limited as it is) even though there is nothing that I can call ‘me’ deep down, that doesn’t mean that I stop thinking Louis CK is funny, or that I stop liking the color green. In fact, in my experience the deeper you go, the more of your pure self emerges.

      The purpose of practice isn’t to get rid of who you are. It’s not to become a mindful zombie with no personality. Instead the purpose is to dig down so that all the stuff on top of what’s real seems light and easy.

      It’s kind of like when you first use chopsticks. In the begginning it feels weird and awkward to try and pick things up with these two sticks. You fumble, struggle, and maybe even get frustrated. But over time you get used to using these new tools and as you do the chopsticks seem lighter and more nimble. The nature of the chopsticks never change. The only that changes is your relationship to them.

      Your personality and the challenges you face are like that. You can’t turn chopsticks into a tool by just putting them aside and you can nullify the challenges you face by ignoring them. It’s only by picking them up and working with them that you learn to use your personality and traits skillfully. There may be ways that you will change as you work, but your essential nature will stay the same.

      I hope that that was helpful and if not I’d bee happy to answer any more questions you have. The last thought I want to leave you with is that despite your self deprecation and lack of confidence you are perfect as you are. I know it may not feel like that but it’s true. You already have everything you need to live a happy and deeply fulfilling life. No matter how you move forward I hope that you will remember that.

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